On MySpace, we were ranked in order of importance on our friends’ Top 8. It later became (up to) a Top 16, and people at least felt a little more included. But if you weren’t even good enough to be #16, it lowered your self-esteem. Admit it, it did. Particularly if it were someone you THOUGHT you were important to. Now, on Facebook, we get the instant update newsfeed, as well as a feature that tells a person when someone has read a message we’ve sent them. Both of these cause nothing but trouble, but also reveal your level of importance, which I guess is, in effect, nothing but trouble, like I said. You’ll message someone, and they’ve read it, but you think maybe they’re just busy or something, and then suddenly, you’ll see them pop up on the newsfeed, talking to someone else, and you think, well fuck, thanks for ignoring me! You’d think people would get this by now, but we can SEE when you’re blowing us off! To some, this may not be a big deal, but it’s rude. I don’t care if you’re in public, on the phone, at work, or online, RUDE is RUDE. Period.

This leads people, overanalyzers like me mostly, to question what you’ve said, how you’ve said it, how they might have interpreted it, or if they’ve just been talking to you at all just to shut you up. This causes problems! How hard is it to say, “I gotta go, later”, or “I’m busy right now, TTYL”, or even, I don’t know, just RESPOND like a normal human? Don’t people realize that in this day and age, rightly or wrongly, we can all see when we’re being ignored? This is a version of walking all over someone. You talk to them sometimes, and other times, it’s as if they don’t even exist. But the other person acts like everything is just peachy. Well, it’s NOT! Or even worse, they lie right to you, “I wasn’t online”, “I was asleep”. Ha, okay, I guess someone who acts just like you hacked your page as soon as I messaged you? Riiiiiiiight. How are you supposed to tell someone that even the little things like this are hurtful, and can build up to even bigger problems? AHHHHHH! Social networking is driving me insane!

I know I sound a little ridiculous, but if you knew how long this had been building up in me and how crazy my life has been lately, you’d totally understand. I liked it better before, when we didn’t know when our messages were seen. This wouldn’t bother me as much if this wasn’t today’s society’s primary method of communication – but it is! Everything revolves around Facebook these days, and while I tolerate it more today than a year or so ago, it still drives me crazy to blatantly see that I’m being purposely ignored. If you knew me, you’d know that is my BIGGEST pet peeve. Ever. I don’t think I ask for too much. More on this subject sure to come shortly.

About Aloha Mister Hand

25, horror chick, blog writer, animal lover, Facebook addict, photographer-hopeful.

9 responses »

  1. D.W. Arsement says:

    Wow, I didn’t know you could do that with FaceBook! I am definitely not turning that on because, I like you, would end up over-thinking stuff too much.

    This is why I like Twitter… just saying. It’s simple. You just tweet, re-tweet, or reply to tweets. You can send DM’s too, but you definitely can’t check to see if they read it or not lol. FaceBook is too in your face. Twitter is simple, and I like things simple.

    Interesting reading about MySpace though. I totally forgot about the top eight friends thing! They should bring that back on FaceBook.

    • Aloha Mister Hand says:

      Thank you for the comment, Drake! :-D
      Actually, that feature is automatically on everyone’s FB, you just have to notice it. I didn’t know about it til I noticed it myself. It is definitely very in your face, I a gree! You’re right!

      So are you trying to say I should make a Twitter account? ;)

  2. JP asked you what kinda music you liked sometime last week and you never told us! You ignore us :(

  3. Now you know why I don’t have a Facebook! First of all you’d be surprised at how people can track your every move. People put too much of themselves on Facebook. Secondly, you’d be surprised at how many of your co-wokers, friends and neighbors, sit around the screen making fun of other’s facebook profiles. Everything people post, say, or do, and all the pictures that you’ve decided to ‘share’ become foder for other’s jokes. Thirdly, if it hasn’t happened already, it will – Facebook will collect all the information about everything you ever posted and everything you ever liked, even info grabbed from your personal pics to create the master profile on you so they can send you ads for; Campbell’s Soup, new cars, Wallmart sales items, Green Giant peas in a can, etc. You are consumer #5133201, it is 1984 and big brother is watching… only big brother is not the government -big brother is large corporations. Sorry, a bit off the subject…

  4. jpthorn says:

    Were you upset when you wrote this?

  5. scopophilia says:

    I had no idea that Facebook did this, nor MySpace with their order of importance. I think it is a dumb idea to have either of those. Supposedly the social networking thing is supposed to bring people together, but in some ways it just drives people apart. Of course maybe it is a good thing because now you know who your real friends are and who are the ones that really don’t care instead of living in an illiusion that they like you when they really don’t.

    I enjoy you candid writing style and honesty.

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